Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Co-Parenting Communication Challenges

Interview with Sarah Bradley & Jill Darcey on how to handle communication challenges when co-parenting. Jill's book 'Parenting with the Ex Factor' is over 400 pages on how to co-parent with your Ex.


Parenting with the Ex Factor: How to Raise Children in a Complex Family

Parenting with the Ex Factor is positive, practical, and real - it's a book for those who are, or have been, involved in separation or divorce. Over 400 pages that explain how to practically parent beyond separation, including the answers to over 60 of the most Frequently Asked Questions gathered through Jill's years of counselling and coaching.

"I can assure you, divorce is not a life sentence to parental failure. Be encouraged - it can be the beginning of a foundation firmly based on living a more authentic and meaningful life with your children. Your children can also have the best of both worlds, as my children frequently describe their lives." "Throughout these pages, you will read part of my own story and learn about those things that have worked well and those that have not.

You will read about others who have walked their path and the effects of their choices. All of this combines to form a uniquely positive perspective on parenting beyond separation; the focus is on raising children who are free from the separation scars that have become painfully normal."

Parenting with the Ex Factor: How to Raise Children in a Complex Family

Monday, January 9, 2012

Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe's and Evan's Coping Guide for Kids

Zoe and Evan Stern know firsthand how it feels when your parents divorce. When their parents split they knew their lives would change but they didn't know how.

A few years later, when they were 15 and 13 years old, they decided to share their experience in this positive and practical guide for kids.

With some help from their mom, Zoe and Evan write about topics like guilt, anger, fear, adjusting to different rules in different houses, dealing with special occasions like birthdays, adapting to stepparents and blended families, and much more.

Including updates from grown-up Zoe and Evan 10 years later, this honest guide will reassure children of divorce that, though it may seem it sometimes, it's not the end of the world.

Advice for kids-by kids-about divorce. More than 28,000 copies sold. Revised edition includes "looking back" updates from Zoe and Evan.

For more information - Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe's and Evan's Coping Guide for Kids

Friday, January 6, 2012

The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle

"A powerful new book whose title says it all." -- Speak Out for Children, Newsletter of the Children's Rights Council, Winter '98
This is a dynamic book that lays bare the corruption of the multi-billion dollar "child-custody racket." It is a system of extortion and terror that reduces men to tears and leaves millions of children fatherless and at extreme risk--all the while enriching the coffers of lawyers, psychologists, and other family-destruction profiteers. Seidenberg shows how the system really works and what a father must do to protect himself and his children, without being totally devoured. If you are a father, or have ever considered the possibility of being one, read this book immediately! Your "right to the pursuit of happiness" may depend on it. -- Stuart A. Miller, Senior Legislative Analyst, American Fathers Coalition - Washington, DC
This is a startling book, and not altogether what one might expect. It is, as its title indicates, a self-help guide; but it is also a political manifesto that opens a window to a world of political struggle most people are unaware even exists.

Everyone has heard the story of a father devastated in divorce-custody litigation-losing his home and children, and driven to bankruptcy as a result of child support, alimony, and legal fees. Until now though, one might have thought these were isolated instances. In The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle, fathers'-rights activist Robert Seidenberg, writing with the legal insights of divorce-attorney William Dawes, starts with the assertion that an abusive legal culture is the norm, and that the brutalization of fathers in court is an everyday occurrence.

From the outset, The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle differentiates itself from other books on this subject by focusing, not on the written law, but on what actually happens in a divorce-custody conflict. It describes the typical patterns of behavior of the main actors in the drama -- fathers, mothers, judges, lawyers, psychologists, and social workers; and the typical patterns of events. Drawing on his own observations and those of attorney Dawes, and combining these with the results of formal studies, Seidenberg sets forth a series of disturbing revelations:

- Custody litigation begins with a brief "temporary" hearing at which custody, child support, alimony, and possession of the marital home are "temporarily" decided until a full trial can be held. But in truth, what happens at this hearing is unlikely to change even if you spend $100,000 on a full trial.

- Women initiate the great majority of divorces. What's more, they start interviewing lawyers and planning their move months before they initiate action. A father typically doesn't have a clue of what's going on until the day he is served with a summons.

- A custody dispute typically begins with a legalized kidnapping. Since the goal is to establish oneself as the primary caretaker, lawyers advise women to take the children and leave; or to get a protective order evicting the husband from the house; or to talk him into moving out "for a trial separation." Thus the mother can establish herself as the sole caretaker, and secure sole custody at the temporary hearing. Most lawyers will not give this advice to men. But some do, and this strategy can work for men as well.

- The great majority of domestic violence all egations and child sex abuse allegations made in custody litigation are false. They are made to gain advantage in custody, support, and property determinations.

- Most lawyers have never won custody for a father. This is especially true of expensive lawyers reputed to be the best in the business.

- Perjury is standard in domestic relations court. Lawyers know that perjury is never prosecuted and many will advise their clients accordingly. They tend to do this with women far more than with men.

- Many so-called custody disputes are not custody disputes at all. To avoid a costly court battle, many fathers concede custody right from the beginning, but then find they have to spend tens of thousands of dollars just to get "standard" visitation.

- "Child Support" is often exorbitant to the point of being financially crippling. It bears no relationship to the needs of the child, and for the average father it has the feeling of extortion. So-called "Deadbeat Dads" are really "Refugee Dads" who have been driven out of their children's lives by the courts and bureaucracies.

In explaining how all this scandal could occur on a national basis without coming to public attention, Seidenberg enters the political realm. In brief well-documented essays, he shows how feminist ideology dominates public discourse to such a degree that few people even realize there is another side to these issues.

The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle is a curious mix of practical advice and political commentary. It works because fathers in custody battle have "arrived at a turn in life where the personal and political coincide." This book is a valuable resource for litigants and lawyers; it is also a worthy contribution to discussion in the areas of judicial culture and gender studies. -- (The Liberator, Newsletter of the Men's Defense Association. December, 1997)

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Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Building a Parenting Agreement That Works: Child Custody Agreements Step by Step

Avoid custody battles -- save time, money and grief.
Working out a fair and realistic child-custody agreement is one of the most difficult tasks for parents going through a divorce or separation. Building a Parenting Agreement That Works is the only book to show separating or divorcing parents how to overcome obstacles and create win-win custody agreements.
A professional mediator, author Mimi Lyster sets out 40 issues separating parents typically face, and presents all the options to resolving them. The book walks you through all the factors you must consider, including:

  • medical care
  • education
  • religious training
  • living arrangements
  • holidays
  • money issues
  • dealing with changes in an existing agreement
  • working with professionals
    The updated 7th edition includes checklists and worksheets to help you complete the included fill-in-the-blank custody agreement, and provides the current custody laws of your state. It also contains new information on "moveaway" laws.

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  • Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath Review
    Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents is a pragmatic yet warm and understanding guide for parents and children on just about every aspect of divorce. From tips on talking to the kids about it, to information on negotiating the realities of custody and child support, Lansky demystifies the divorce process, including the emotional aspects.
    A parenting writer of many books (Feed Me, I'm Yours), Lansky is also a divorced, single mother. Her combination of information, humor, and compassion make the Divorce Book for Parents a valuable resource.
    From Library Journal
    Basing her approach on the belief that children are affected less by divorce itself than by the way a family is restructured and the way feelings are handled afterward, Lansky--herself a divorced mother and the author of Feed Me! I'm Yours (Meadowbrook, 1986. rev. ed.) and other books--presents a highly practical and optimistic guide for divorced and divorcing parents.
    Among the many problem areas she covers, all from the perspective of doing what is best for the child, are breaking the news, the danger of continuing conflict, deciding when professional help is needed, organizing--and surviving--departure, dealing with the ex-spouse, and long-term adjustment. "You might think I'm painting a rather rosy picture in this book and that the real world doesn't work like this," she admits. "But it can. " Highly recommended for all public library collections.
    - Marcia G. Fuchs, Guilford Free Lib., Ct.
    Copyright 1989 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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    Monday, January 2, 2012

    Making Divorce Easier on Your Child: 50 Effective Ways to Help Children Adjust

    From the bestselling authors of Parenting the Strong-Willed Child, expert strategies and action steps for divorcing parents

    While there are many trade books on children and divorce, most tend to be filled with extensive discussions of the psychological impact on children, with little effective advice. You want immediate answers and quick access to expert strategies you can use to help your kids today and in the future. Making Divorce Easier on Your Child arms you with 50 effective strategies and action steps for helping your kids cope with divorce, packaged in a convenient, quick-bite format. It is based on the authors’ years of clinical experience dealing with the children of divorce, as well as their extensive research into the causes and cures of divorce-related emotional problems.

    “Informative and sensible, offering realistic, clear-cut recommendations.”

    Robert Brooks, Ph.D., Faculty, Harvard Medical School, and coauthor of Raising Resilient Children

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    Sunday, January 1, 2012

    Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who is Driving You Crazy

    This empowering guide is an inspirational roadmap for the millions of men and women navigating a rocky relationship with a former spouse-while trying to maintain a healthy atmosphere for their child. Topics include:
    * The 7 strategies for peace when an ex refuses to change
    * Skills for taming former in-laws
    * Ways to help children cope with a difficult parent
    * Strategies and alternatives for focusing anger
    * How to avoid hot-button issues
    * How to nudge an ex to change for the better
    * Ways to deal with children's questions and confusion
    * The new partner's role in the old partner's shadow
    This is the book for every frustrated parent coming out of a divorce who needs support in setting things right-the healthy, sensible, and sane way.

    For more information - Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who is Driving You Crazy